Klyne says, “In the end submission is nothing more than a decision about relative worth of another person, a manner of dying and rising with Christ, and a way to respect and love other people.”
The
value or worth we see in the other person can be an indicator of our
willingness to submit or not. But you
know what a great indicator is? The
statement of how do we see our own relative worth? How valuable do we see ourselves, our
identity?
That’s
why our identity is so important and why submission is so difficult. If we are striving for value and worth in a
relationship we may not humble ourselves, because we need to prove that we are
right, powerful, in charge, accepted, enough.
Or
if we are striving for worth in a relationship we may arrange ourselves under
the other person, but it is more as a doormat or a victim in order to feel some
semblance of love from the other person, even if it is unhealthy.
But
if we know, at the core of who we are, that we are chosen and beloved, and that
we don’t have to go chasing for the value.
We know we have relative worth based upon what Christ has done. Then we can freely arrange ourselves under
someone else and love and respect them.
Because their acceptance or mutual submission isn’t defining who we are,
or our value. That’s already taken care
of, by God’s transformative work.
One
of the action steps this week was to take a look at your core and see how you
see your value in God’s eye? Do you see
yourself as beloved and chosen? Or are
you still chasing after that belovedness and choseness? If so, before you can redefine submission you
need to start at your own value. Take
some time today and meet with God, quiet yourself and ask him how much he
values you.
